When Elijah battled with depression, God didn't send an angel to preach to him, tell him to have more faith, or rebuke him for feeling bad for so long. He sent an angel to comfort him. God understands trauma states. He knows we need presence and relationship. ~ Holly Nelson

Elijah and Depression

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Entitled Perfectionism

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People with disordered personalities will constantly throw in your face that you are NOT as advertised (a good human being). The level of perfectionism that they demand of you is unattainable. There are no grey areas. Only two levels on their scales: YOU ARE TRASH or YOU ARE PERFECTION. “Good Enough” appears nowhere in their […]

Because we don't openly talk about grief, in this culture, we have a flawed view of what it's really like. Because we don't openly talk about grief, we don't know what's "normal". We don't know how to care for ourselves, or others. ~ Megan Devine

Western Culture and Grief

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The blood of our brothers and sisters is crying out to God. We desecrate the name of the Lord, and bring great damage to His well-loved creatures, when we fail to bend down, listen to, tend to, and carry His image-bearers. ~ Diane Langberg, PhD

Their Blood Cries Out

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When it comes to injustice, silence is not a virtue. Silence is a double vice, compounded because it contains both indifference to the victims, and complicity with the destroyers. ~ Diane Langberg, PhD

Silence Is Not A Virtue

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What Do We Tell Wives Whose Husbands Refuse To Have Sex?

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As we discuss this topic, it is important to make the differentiation between sexual dysfunction and sexual aversion. Refusing to have sex is different from a physical inability to have sex. Refusing to have sex is different from low desire, due to low testosterone. Sexual dysfunction is different from sexual aversion, which is a more […]

There is no timestamp on trauma. There isn't a formula that you can insert to get from horror to healed. Be patient. Take up space. Let your journey be the balm. ~ Dawn Serra

From Trauma to Healed

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Healing the Emotional Trauma in My Bones

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Did you know that emotional trauma gets lodged in the cells of our bodies? This is a powerful story of how emotional trauma can stay lodged in our bodies for decades, and resurface when we feel safe enough to process it. Kimberley has been doing brave work to release her trauma, using somatic therapy modalities, […]

They say: "That was a long time ago." In reality, it's still happening. ~ Leanne Chapman

But, it was a long time ago…

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Trauma is any stressor that occurs in a sudden and forceful way, and is experienced as overwhelming. ~ Stephanie S. Covington

Trauma Is Any Stressor

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